How to Talk to Your Partner about Male Infertility

Male infertility can be a painful topic for many men to talk about. Unfortunately, it is a common issue among couples. According to Urology Health, about 13 in 100 couples won’t be able to get pregnant even with unprotected sex. It can seem as if you are alone, and that male infertility may ruin your life, but that’s not true. It doesn’t have to be a wholly negative experience. You can even grow stronger together.

Use “I” Statements 

When first breaking the news to your partner about your male infertility it can be a mix of emotions. It may cause you anxiety and depression thinking about having to break the news to your spouse. When talking about the situation, it is important to use “I phrasing” for both you and your partner. This means you won’t assume how each other feels, and you don’t need to subject yourself to miscommunication. Having that open dialogue with your partner is critical for moving forward in your relationship. Critically, the healing process can begin for you and your spouse. You won’t come to grips with the situation overnight, but slowly you will realize there is still life to be had after this. It doesn’t have to be a situation of only pain and heartache, but of warmth and comforting. Being open with your partner can make all the difference when you are feeling emasculated in silence.

Exhaust possible options such as IVF

It’s best to consult with a doctor first when you consider you may be susceptible to male infertility. A urologist can break down how your body is functioning and what roadblocks lay ahead. This may lead to several different treatments to help you on your journey. In Vitro Fertilization can help with certain cases of male infertility, but not all. A urologist can help you sort out your options and help you learn how to talk about your condition. Science is always making leaps forward and new treatments can be used to become pregnant. Make sure you discuss every possible outcome with your urologist and the likelihood of you ever becoming pregnant.

Treatment is a two-way street, though, and may often require more from a female spouse than a male. You both need to be on board with any operations or procedures. Again, establishing that open dialogue can help you in unfamiliar situations like this.

Recognize this is no one’s fault

It doesn’t need to be said, but also it does. Male infertility or female infertility is no one’s fault. No one chose for this to happen and you need to cut yourself some slack. Recognize that this single event does not define you. It is but one moment that makes up all of your human experiences. Allow yourself and your partner to focus on what you can and cannot control. In the end, let the emotions come, feel them deeply in the moment, and allow them to pass when you can.

If you are struggling with how to deal with these emotions, it is wise to seek out support from outside sources together. Check out seeing a therapist or joining a support group. It can be a great way to explain your emotions and how to manage them.

Get out of your head and make memories

It can be tempting to stay home and do nothing. In fact, it’s a common symptom of depression. However, it can be beneficial to your mental state and relationship to get out and experience the world. Take a trip you have been wanting to go on, go see old friends, try out new hobbies, start writing about how you feel and join a writers group. Whatever it is, make sure you are having fun and being involved. It will help get out of your head and emotions and focus on building or creating new memories.

Thinking you may need to be tested for male infertility? Northwoods Urology can help you. We are a no-judgment clinic designed to help patients when they are at their most vulnerable. Contact us today and see how we can better your life!